The Astrology of Kink: The Complex Capricorn and The Aquarian Experience

Just for clarification I’m a Capricorn born under an Aquarius moon.  So I am very much influenced by both signs. There are qualities from both that do and simply do not fit me. Though, it’s up to those that know me well to pick and choose where the lines begin and end. 

The Astrology of Kink: The Complex Capricorn

September 24, 2008 by  73 Comments

[ad#link]Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. We’ve made it to Capricorn — it’s about time, too — and the sign of the Goat happens to be one of the most pivotal sexual influences of all.

Capricorn is the sign of authority and ambition. Saturn’s drive for material mastery is readily expressed in that most physical of physical-plane activities, sex. Capricorn lies on the projective, paternal end of the “mama/papa” authority axis, and has a strong influence on sexual preferences.

For one thing, depending on where Capricorn falls in the chart, it’s often a clear indicator of BDSM tastes. As counterintuitive as it may seem, Capricorn Suns (and sometimes Capricorn Ascendants) often like to be dominated, and dominated completely, in the bedroom. If this seems odd, think of the proverbial hard-driving executive who secretly visits a dominatrix for various forms of discipline, bondage, and sadomasochistic release. While urban myths like these are often completely goofy in many ways, they can sometimes contain a grain of truth.

In this case, the grain of truth is that Saturn is a hard master, and creates a tremendous amount of internal pressure in those he rules. Many Capricorns do find release through complete sexual abandonment; long-term relationships sometimes take the form of a total power exchange, in which the Capricorn in question is relieved of all non-public responsibilities by becoming a slave at home.

However, this sign can be surprising in more ways than one; it behaves somewhat differently elsewhere in the chart. Venus, Mars, and (sometimes) the Moon in Capricorn are likelier to create a dominant partner than a submissive one. There are differences in how Capricorn influences men and women, too. Strong Capricorn influences are found in the charts of countless lesbians (dominant or not) as well as in the charts of heterosexual women who are direct, projective, and unwilling to compromise themselves simply because they’re women. In the study of gender variance in women, Saturn is key.

[ad]But what about those Capricorns who don’t necessarily like ropes, chains, and strap-ons? Even the most vanilla-seeming Goat will have distinct sexual preferences, usually about who’s on top. Once you get them to open up — and they can be reticent at first — Capricorns are direct, vigorous lovers. Experimentation isn’t Capricorn’s forte; they’re more likely to exhibit stamina and persistence than imagination. This is not necessarily a bad thing; while other lovers may move too quickly to something more interesting (like sleep, or a tuna sandwich) Capricorn is still there, taking care of business.

Spontaneous sensuality can suffer, though. Capricorn is very goal-oriented, and it’s tough to make them to understand that an orgasm is not a directive — sometimes, it’s merely a happy side effect. They tend to treat orgasm like a mountain peak that they must reach, as plodding or uncomfortable as the trip may become. However, most Capricorns are also sensitive lovers — in their way — and if you can distract them from their achievement fixation, you can usually help them understand your need for undirected sensual play.

Capricorn is a sexually complex sign, and no matter where it falls in a chart, it’ll tend to add a taste for the rougher stuff. If you fancy a partner who is either decidedly dominant or decidedly submissive — Capricorn rarely switches — find someone with this influence. Which will you get, though? The implacable top or the demanding bottom? Well, look at it this way — finding out is half the fun.

About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?

The Astrology of Kink: The Aquarian Experience

October 2, 2008 by  9 Comments

[ad]Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Now we turn our attention toward the penultimate sign of the Zodiac, the unique, baffling Aquarius.

Aquarius is well-known as the most unconventional sign of the Zodiac; they often make for friendly, quirky lovers who are open to almost anything. But this is not a personal sign, and their detachment can be puzzling; Aquarius is motivated primarily by mental concepts, rather than sex or sentiment. Where another sign might try a swinger’s club primarily for sexual satisfaction, an Aquarian will join because “It’s clearly wrong for society to place such rigid social strictures on something as natural as sex, and we should all do our part to fight these ridiculous man-made restrictions.” Another sign might use that as a truly imaginative justification, but Aquarius means it. Really.

Once things move away from an abstract level, though, it gets dicey. Dealing with irrational urges like love and personal attraction is tricky for WaterBearers; their love lives are often erratic at best. Aquarian sexual preference is always a highly personalized affair; the “normal” rules of engagement don’t apply. You’ll find them in open relationships, long-distance relationships, cyber relationships, asexual relationships — in short, relationships that others find quite puzzling. This is Uranus we’re talking about — if it makes sense to the Aquarian in question, that’s all that matters.

Like their Air sign counterparts Gemini and Libra, Aquarians don’t necessarily have a strong, insistent physical sex drive, but they’re certainly not libido-less. Aquarian Suns with a strong Mars (such as in AriesScorpio, or Capricorn) will be as lusty as anyone, even if a bit quirky. But the Aquarian Mars is perhaps the most unconventional sexual indicator of all — so unconventional, in fact, that some folks with this Mars bypass sex altogether, at least at times. Aquarian Mars (and sometimes Venus and the Moon) is able to easily and satisfactorily channel sexual urges into cerebral outlets; extended periods of voluntary celibacy are not uncommon.

[ad#link]Oddly, some of them have strong, near-conscious inhibitions, thanks to their co-ruler Saturn. It’s useless to try to help an Aquarian through a sexual problem by using flattery, coercion, or emotional appeal; rational discussion is the only thing that works. Essentially, your job is to debate the matter endlessly as she works through every mental objection she has to whatever off-the-wall thing it is she’s clearly going to do anyway. (Aquarian logic applied to that least logical of all processes, human sexuality, can be monumentally infuriating.) But once their own objections are addressed, look out — there’s nothing a de-inhibited Aquarian won’t do, at least once.

Aquarius is an intriguing sign, to say the least; loving an Aquarian-influenced person is a unique experience, and no one makes it through unchanged. If you can gracefully accept the cerebral detachment, the out-of-the-blue experimental ideas, and the stubborn Uranian unpredictability, you’ll never lack for stimulating company. Aquarians will only accept lovers who are as unique and strong-minded as they are; they don’t want a sheep or a yes-man, they want a mental companion who will courageously question the whole world, if need be. Above all else, they’re looking for a friend. “Best friends with benefits” describes Aquarian relationships perfectly, even if they’ve lasted forty years — and how rare and special is that?

About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?

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